5 Steps To Intentionally Meet With A Friend

3rd Annual "Mobilize Your Personal Ministry" Disciple-making Training

Whenever I meet with someone over coffee to get to know them, I receive a lot of thank you’s and vocalized anticipation to meet up again. Meeting intentionally with people is not only a part of my vocation but it’s a passion, joy and calling of mine. I think I receive so much appreciation because we’re made for relationship, every human longs to be heard, to be known. Mobilizing young professionals to Intentionally meet with people is a major part of my ministry modeling Jesus intentionally “being with” the disciples (Luke 8:1). Here are five steps to take to intentionally meet with a friend:

1. Set up a lunch or coffee with a friend. This might seem to be common sense but busyness and tiredness keeps people from meeting with each other. How many times do you intend to meet with a friend and then it’s weeks, months or even a year before you make it happen. Let’s respond to Jesus’ command that overflows from Him dying on the cross to save us to make disciples. Love the people you know. Invest in their life. Ask them to meet with you.

2. Ask about their life story. But what do you talk about when you are with them? Everyone longs to be heard and known. Don’t you? Ask your friend to share their story with you. Ask them specific questions to draw out different aspects of their story. Have no expectations. This person might not be a Christian. If so it won’t be a testimony. Listen to their story. Meet them where they are.

3. Share your life story. Everyone longs to hear the life story of the one that cares enough to ask for time with them and to hear their story. Anticipate that they might ask you about your story. Here’s an open door. Since you’re a Christian, you are not the main character of your story. Jesus is. Share your testimony of how Jesus saved you when you were lost, transferred you into His Kingdom and He longs to do this for everyone (Colossians 1:13).

4. Ask your friend if he or she would like to continue meeting weekly. Intentionality is not a one and done deal. Intentionally meeting with someone is long term. Jesus spent years with twelve guys. Bless your friend by asking if he or she wants to meet in a week or two and continue meeting weekly or biweekly.

5. Be intentional for the vision of your friendship and meetings. Like Jesus, we meet people when they’re at when we meet with them but we don’t leave them where they’re at. We take them somewhere. Jesus took the disciples to new places in their spiritual journey and He does the same with us. Pray before you meet with your friend. Pray about what new place you’d like to take them to in their relationship with Jesus, to go deeper into Him. God had a plan when He met you where you are. Have a plan for your friend when you meet them where they are.

How did someone intentionally meet with you? How did they meet with you right where you are and take you to a new place in God? Who is in your life that God is calling you to meet with and to invest in? What are some practical ways you invest in people? Comment below. Let’s continue to conversation.

  • The monthly City-wide Gathering FREE brunch is this Saturday, June 3 at 10:00 a.m. with a Christ-center married couple sharing on their marketplace ministry here and in China!
  • The 3rd Annual Mobilize Your Personal Ministry Summer Disciple-making Training starts This Sunday, June 4!  We have ONE more slot.  Contact Todd to enroll!

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THRIVE in Christ-Centered Counter-Cultural Community

Summer Disciple-making Training

We’ve launched four Intentional Discipleship Communities among young professionals in the Dallas/Fort Worth metroplex. This is the thriving one in Fort Worth!!! “We loved you so much that we shared with you not only God’s Good News but our own lives, too.” – 1 Thessalonians 3:8

Community is a dying art form in today’s culture.  Do you intend to meet a friend next week and it does not happen for  months? The culture we live in and work schedules that lead the day typically does not cultivate community. We need to be Kingdom-minded and lead our schedules to cultivate community.

This ministry is passionate about living in Christ-centered community. This is why we launched Intentional Discipleship Communities (IDCs) for you throughout the metroplex. If your priority is not living in community now, it probably never will be. Your today impacts your tomorrow. If you do not start living in community today, you probably never will because it will not be a habit:

“And let us consider how to spur one another on to love and good deeds. Let us not neglect meeting together, as some have made a habit, but let us encourage one another, and all the more as you seethe Day approaching (Hebrews 10:24-25).”

Don’t die watching Netflix.  Trending today is not committing to times that community gathers. Why? Maybe the false fear that something better might come up.  Maybe being exhausted from work.  When tragedy occurs, community is key. Rest well and foster your community life.  They’re there to carry your burdens:

“Carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the Law of Christ.” (Galatans 6:2)

Invite people YOU know “right were YOU live, work and play” to follow Jesus with YOU as you THRIVE in community!

This Saturday, May 6 is the City-wide Gathering with discipleship equipping on cultivating community, intentional friends and a complimentary brunch followed by a 20-minute interest meeting for the 3rd annual Summer Disciple-making Training!  Invite a young professional friend in their twenties or thirties to enjoy this with YOU:

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Your Vocation As Your Ministry

An Average American works an average of 47 hours per week, which equates to nearly six days a week, according to Gallup.  In this growing ministry among young professionals in the Dallas/Fort Worth metroplex, our first pursuit is Christ and intimacy with Him.  This overflows through your vocation through honoring Christ in excellent work and living missional lives at work:

“And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him…Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” – ‭Colossians‬ ‭3:17, 23-24‬ ‭ESV‬‬
  • What does it look like to honor Christ through your specific career?
  • How do you share Jesus with lost peers at work?
  • How do you team up with disciples of Jesus at your work  to live out the above two questions as a team?

Feel free to comment below.  If you’re a young professional or know one who’d like to be in one of the four Intentional Discipleship Communities we’ve launched around the DFW who are meeting in Dallas, Euless, North Richland Hills and Fort Worth, message me.  These communities are journeying through the above topics together this month and next month.

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3 Ways Marriage Blesses Your Socks Off

Happy 3rd Anniversary, Marissa!!!

Let’s press into marriage!  This is not what culture says

Happy 3rd Anniversary, Marissa! A.K.A. Best 3 years EVER!

culture’s environment does not propel this. But as residence of God’s Kingdom, marriage is something to look forward to and to take action of faith toward. I know you’ve heard me before encourage guys to not wait around but if you know who you want to pursue to marry, do it!  Three years ago on February 23, 2014, I married the love of my life. That week when we set up our joint bank account, the personal banker told us that he is waiting years for marriage until he has a certain amount of money, a house, etc… My wife, who listens to the Holy Spirit well, in her sweet voice reply. “We highly recommend marriage”.  In like-heartedness, here are three ways marriage will bless your socks off:

  1.  You’ll experience Jesus like never before!  When you are single, the blessing is you have  time and an undivided mind to do more for the cause of the Gospel. When you’re married, the covenant of your marriage represents the Gospel and helps you experience and be the Gospel to others: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless (Ephesians 5:25-27).”
  2. Where one is weak, the other is strong!  You probably know this without me even typing it slowly… I’m slow at… well at just about everything I do.  Marissa is the opposite.  She’s the most efficient person i have ever met.  You already know who takes care of the details.  Not me.  I’m a visionary. I struggle with the details.  I meet  people EVERYWHERE I go.  That’s not her. She meets more people through me but she goes deeper with fewer friends.  She teaches me about that through her life.  The wisest man ever lived explains this well:  “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:  If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.  But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).”
  1.  Someone is ALWAYS on your side! When I was single, it was just me. Yes, I had Christian community that would bear some of my burdens.  But day in day out, it was me. I faced oncoming situations with the help of God and community.  Being in tight-knit Christian community now prepares you for marriage. Then when you get married, you join a team.  One plus one equals three. Marissa and I as a team with Jesus leading, there is always someone on her side and on my side in God’s calling that He walks us into. When we’re attacked by Satan or circumstances of life, there is always someone with me to help overcome. Solomon also fleshes this out in his words: “If two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone.  Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:11-12).”
Are you ready to get your socks blessed off?!  Marissa and I really encourage you to press into marriage or if your married, we encourage you to press into the covenant of marriage God blessed you with.  Like Marissa said ever so sweetly: “We highly recommend marriage.”
What does it look like for your to lean into the covenant of marriage? What other blessings do you see in marriage?  Comment and let’s carry on the conversation below.  We’re praying for 20 new monthly supporters this month for the “Heart for the Kingdom” campaign. Please click here, fill in your important monthly amount and click “make this a monthly gift”. Meet, mobilize and multiply with us.  All giving is tax deductible.
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