3 Ways The Father Honors His Son

Marissa and I recently have been part of an incredible parenting class with our church.  ThisFullSizeRender week we learned that daughters have an innate need for security and sons, like men, have a need to be honored.  So I asked God to show me how to honor Oliver.  Then I asked God, “How did you honor your son, Jesus?”
In the beginning of 2015, I encouraged my friends and 20s to choose a character trait of God to explore more this year.  Since I’m about to be a dad, I chose God’s character trait of a father and asked God to show me His Father characteristics.   He answered my prayer and showed me in His Word three impacting ways God the Father honored His Son Jesus:
 1 The Father lets His Son know He is pleased with him.
     Notice that God did not tell His Son why He is pleased with Him,  nor did The Father share what actions Jesus did to please him.  Jesus’ Dad simply was pleased with Him because of who He is, His identity, being His Son:
“And a voice came from heaven: ‘You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.’” – Mark 1:11
2 The Father gives His Son away for a God-given purpose.
     God did not smother nor was He over-protective of His Son, Jesus.  In fact, the Father honored His son by giving Him away! Not just for any reason but for His God-given purpose, to redeem humans back to Himself:
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”  – John 3:16
3 The Father lets His Son be involved in what He is doing.
     We’ve all heard of the dad who makes himself too busy to be with son.  And if his son tries to be involved with what his hero, his dad is doing,  the dad shrugs and tells his son to get out of the way.  But God, the Heavenly Father, never did this to his son but quite the opposite.  Because the Heavenly Father loved and honored Jesus, He let Jesus be involved in what the Father was doing:
 “Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.” – John 5:19
What a Heavenly Dad!  This spurs me on to honor my son, Oliver!  I’m going to continually let Oliver know I am please with “who” he is.  I’m not going to suffocate his destiny but release Him in His God-given purpose.  Oliver is my second ministry under my marriage.  I will strive to never do anything to make Oliver feel like he is in my way, rather I will welcome him to be part of my calling in life.
What other ways may we show boys honor?  Feel free to carry on the conversation.

Originally posted 2016-06-17 03:00:24.

May I introduce myself?

An Autobio blog

Thank you for dropping by my website.  A lot of you might have read about my wife and I in the

NavLollarFamileProfileGateway Life magazine this month so I’d like to simply introduce myself. I’m blessed to be married to Marissa,  We have a beautiful four month old boy name Oliver.  In my eighth year serving as a full-time missionary with the Navigators, a discipleship mission organization, we have  launched a discipleship ministry coming along side of young professionals  on the mission field of the DFW,  equipping them to make disciples right where they live, work, and play.
Ever since I received a Masters in Biblical and Related Studies from Abilene Christian University, I’ve discipled among singles, young adults, and collegiate ministries everywhere from inner city streets to college dorm rooms. I’ve had the blessing of traveling around the world sharing the hope of Christ through my testimony, God’s power through my weaknesses. God showed me in a daily quiet time in St. Louis that He’ll use my disability and all my weaknesses to powerfully advance His Kingdom because of this truth:

     “he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me (2 Cor. 12:9).”

Although I have  traveled across the world speaking the Good News of Jesus among thousands and spurring hearts on in their relationship with Jesus, my main passion in ministry is to invest deeply one-on-one and launching discipleship networks among young professionals so these 20s are equipped to make disciples among their peers where God has planted them among the Dallas / Fort Worth.
God’s power being made perfect in my weaknesses like cerebral palsy empowers me to connect with people, and, in turn, God lets us see people connect to Jesus.

Click here to:

1.  E-mail me about getting involved in the Nav20s as a 20 or as a professional mentor to a 20.

2. Become a prayer partner in our mission work among 20s.

3. Become a recurring ministry financial partner.  All donations are tax-deductible.

Originally posted 2015-08-01 07:30:44.

You Have Always Been Intimately Known


You were never an after-thought. God has always  intimately known you. As my son is to be born any day now, please pray with me that he will come to know deep in his heart that he is known,  “marvelously made” and prepared to live a life Glorifying Jesus.


Originally posted 2015-04-13 07:00:55.

3 Part Vision for our Marriage

Having a vision is common in the business world and in life coaching, but vision is also a must in marriage. Since marriage is a covenant that God created, we are to have awesome Christ-centered vision for our marriage. “Where there is no vision, the people perish…” Proverbs 29:18a

Soon after Marissa and I began dating, I shared with her part of my vision for our relationship. The longer we were together, the more I shared. This is the vision that God gave me for my relationship with Marissa and she caught the vision and is living it out with me.

1. We are a team to make disciples among 20s and in all nations.

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:19, 20 ESV

2.  We are more effective together in advancing the Gospel of Jesus Christ than we are individually.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NIV

3. I will present Marissa as holy and blameless to God.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” Ephesians 5: 25-26


What vision has God given you for your marriage or future marriage? Post it below- we would love to read it and continue the conversation.

Originally posted 2014-03-10 08:00:05.